This true story is about my ex-wife, Marilyn. I married Marilyn in 1967. We had one child, Pam, in 1970. I had met Marilyn in 1966 while I was in the military. She was the first girl I really fell for! Those bright blue eyes and pretty smile, with a sense of humor, country girl, she caught my interest!
While in Alaska for two years, Marilyn just wanted to work. She got a job in Anchorage with the Post Office. I was honorable discharged and we came home to Michigan, where Pam was born.
In 1974, Pam needed a 16+ hour open-heart surgery and a pacemaker implanted, followed by three more surgeries in a very short time, due to defective pacemakers. Marilyn lived right in the hospital room with Pam, in an Ann Arbor, Michigan hospital. Marilyn was always a caring and good mother.
Soon after Pam was allowed home, Marilyn was diagnosed with Lupus blood disease. In the early 1970s not many doctors knew or understood Lupus, making Marilyn’s health concerns quite frustrating at times. Then, within a year, Marilyn had her first of five cancers. Her first cancer was of the lymph node in her neck. That surgery left half of her face paralyzed for over a year. She did okay for a few years, then, after I came to prison, more cancers entered her 5-foot 105-pound body. Marilyn became a Bible-believing Christian after I came to prison. Her faith in God was nothing less than amazing. Then, cancer number two, cancer number three and cancer number four entered her in the next few years. Her faith in Jesus Christ, her strength got her through some very rough battles. The chemotherapy weakened her small body, but not her faith in God! She fought those cancers over a period of years, and with God’s help she won each and every battle!
Pam had a daughter, Emily, in 1988. Emily brought more joy to Marilyn, she was a grandma now!
Marilyn was hospitalized a few times from Lupus-related problems that hit in between those cancers, but she won every battle with God’s help and strength. To make matters worse, her finances were in terrible shape. Yet God provided time and time again.
In 1993 cancer number five hit and hit hard! Stomach cancer! Marily had her stomach and part of her esophagus removed. She spent 10+ months in ICU/recovery. She was on some very strong medication. She did not give up. She trusted God. God got her through it all. I think she simply refused to give in to death. She had things to do! It took a couple of years but she got her health and strength back. Marilyn divorced me during her fifth cancer. As I look back, I understand that she just needed to. After she got healthy again she began to write and visit me for over a year. Then, due to her health, finances, and other things, she stopped writing and told me it might be better for me to ‘move on.’ Yes, I got very lonely. I wanted to be married, but deep down I loved and cared for Marilyn. I prayed for her every day.
In 2011, Emily gave Marilyn the new position great grandma, when Lily came into the world. Wow! That also made Pam a grandma!
In 2013, Pam went in for surgery to change her pacemaker. The surgeon messed up and this ‘simple’ one-day surgery turned into a five-day, two hospital, three surgeon emergency! I panicked. It was a few years since I phoned Marilyn, but I had to know about Pam so I dialed Marilyn’s number. She accepted and we shared two really great phone calls the next two days. Pam healed and was sent home okay.
In the 1970s, I had a good job with an auto parts company, but I love tropical fish. I convinced Marilyn we should open up a small pet shop in Bay City. It was called B & C Aquarium. We had everything except snakes, dogs & cats. Marilyn was not too amused the day I ordered a dozen tarantulas! But, she ran that pet shop for seven years. I’m not sure if she missed the shop when we closed its doors, but I know she met a lot of people. She looked forward to many coming in to talk.
Marilyn was a fighter, a doer, a loving person. Her faith in Jesus Christ brought her through far more trials than are in this tract!
On March 21, 2015 God must have said, ‘Marilyn, good work, you come home now.’ Marilyn was admitted to the hospital the first week of March. She could not breathe good. Her heart was not beating right. In her two weeks of being hospitalized, her condition would change from good to poor a few times. The hospital phoned Pam about 1 AM to come in and spend what looked like Marilyn’s final hours. A few days before that, though, Pam and Marilyn shared a few hours when Marilyn was wide awake and alert, feeling good, and they enjoyed some girly talk together. It was a blessing. But now Pam arrived at the hospital, and even though Marilyn was not alert, Pam knew Marilyn was aware Pam was with her. Marilyn soon took her last breath.
Later, one of ther nurses went up to Pam and said, ‘It was a blessing you had your mom’s last two hours with her.’ Pam said it was like God immediately put on her heart that it was not two hours God gave her with Marilyn, it was 20 years! Because in reality, death was knocking 20 years ago, during that cancer number five. Yes! God gave Pam and Marilyn those last 20 years!
I will miss Marilyn Jean! I still have my family. I give God the glory in Christ Jesus! Pass this true story on to someone who needs hope. Seek Christ today.
The days of our years are threescore years and ten; and if by reason of strength they be fourscore years, yet is their strength labor and sorrow; for it is soon cut off, and we fly away…So teach us to number our days, that we may apply our hearts unto wisdom. Psalm 90:10, 12
Today if ye hear his voice, harden not your hearts. Hebrews 4:7
Behold, now is the accepted time; behold, now is the day of salvation. II Corinthians 6:2
For all have sinned, and come short of the glory of God. Romans 3:23
For the wages of sin is death. Romans 6:23a
For God so loved the world, that he gave his only begotten Son, that whosoever believeth in him should not perish, but have everlasting life. For God sent not his Son into the world to condemn the world, but that the world through him might be saved. John 3:16-17
All we like sheep have gone astray; we have turned every one to his own way; and the LORD hath laid on him the iniquity of us all. Isaiah 53:6
If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just to forgive us our sins, and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness. I John 1:19
…The time is fulfilled, and the kingdom of God is at hand: repent ye, and believe the gospel. Mark 1:15
Jesus saith… I am the way, the truth, and the life: no man cometh unto the Father, but by me. John 14:6
Jesus said… I am the resurrection, and the life: he that believeth in me, though he were dead, yet shall he live: And whosoever liveth and believeth in me shall never die. Believest thou this? John 11:25-26
Therefore if any man be in Christ, he is a new creature: old things are passed away; behold, all things are become new. II Corinthians 5:17
He that believeth on the Son hath everlasting life: and he that believeth not the Son shall not see life; but the wrath of God abideth on him. John 3:36
Lord Jesus…I confess that I have sinned against God. I repent and turn from my sins. I believe that You died for my sins, were buried, and rose again the third day, that I may have eternal life through you. I receive You now as my personal Savior and Lord. Thank you. In Your Name I pray, Amen.
The memory of the just is blessed. Proverbs 10:7